This year I’ve resolved not to resolve anything. I am painfully aware of my shortcomings and don’t need to remind myself every January first. My Mom is a psychologist, and I guess a lot of introspection is just something that is drilled into you.
If I remember correctly, last year, I resolved to stop looking over the fence and finish what I started before embarking on a new project. While not fully accomplished, I did make some strides at that.
As a writer of erotic stories, I need new plotlines and story ideas to feed my drive to produce. This has always been my Achilles heel, besides my addiction to short skirts. I’ve been writing well-reviewed erotic romance stories for ten years. If you look at the fact, I’ve written and published about thirty-five unique novels and/or novellas, or three and a half per year on average.
My draft folder contains over one hundred stories that are probably at least half finished but are gathering dust. What I should do is complete and publish those, but what’s the fun in that? There is always a new story idea to pursue or some shiny object that catches my eye.
I had to laugh the other day at a review of one of my novels where the reader said that couldn’t possibly happen in real life! As an author, I often base a story on something we’ve done or seen as swingers. Looking at our Lifestyle from a straight point of view certainly could evoke skepticism from those on the outside. But you’d be surprised at what goes on in our little world.
There have been several studies on what percentage of people are swingers, but it’s likely more than you’d think. A 2019 article in Psychology Today put the number at 4 percent of the population, or around three million US couples.
I would venture to say that the number would be higher if you restrict the age group to the most likely suspects. If you ignore unicorns and stags, the starting pool is typically a married couple with seven to ten years under their belt. It takes a few years for the new to wear off and one or both to have wandering eyes.
My wife and I were married for about four years before we did the dirty deed but had talked about it before we were married. The first club we were in was made up of people typically ten or more years older than we were. The old saying is that the man gets the couple into swinging, but it is the wife who keeps them in the Lifestyle.
As swingers, we tend to be more extreme than average couples, and not in a bad way. But the reviewer who said my story could not happen possibly hadn’t been in some of the situations we have. Certainly, my stories are a little more packed with sex than our real life, but if you took out all of the “straight” activities and just pushed the fucking and sucking together, you might be surprised.
As an author of erotica, I believe that the reader buys my smut for the sexual content, so my goal is to feed that need. Indeed, some people buy Playboy to read the articles but let’s get real; we look at the pictures.
I would like to think that my erotic stories are like the difference between Penthouse and Hustler. Not to dig on Hustler, but it is a little more raunchy than Penthouse. Not to say that Penthouse is Pulitzer award-winning material.
Porn stories are not tasteful by any stretch of the imagination, but mine are more than stringing together as many four-letter words as you can. My stories are female-positive and typically happily ever after (HEA), as that’s been our experience with being in an open relationship.
In my latest stories, I’ve been toying with the idea of my fictional Foxy and Larry entering into a polyamory relationship. Of course, in real life, I don’t think we’ve crossed this bridge or even set foot on it, but the concept has been fun to weave into my books. Poly relationships involve love and emotions outside of the couple, which is a fundamental no-no for most swingers. One of the things you avoid is emotional entanglements such as excessive kissing or other intimate activities. Going to a house party is having sex with someone and not entering into a long-term commitment.
Hotwives are another hot topic that is often in the top five of Internet searches and pretty common at house parties. Many guys enjoy watching their wives get their lights drilled out, and it’s a fact that women’s sex drive peaks around forty while the guys’ is on the decline.
As swingers tend to be in their thirties and forties, a lot of women are at their sexual peak. Allowing your wife to be satisfied makes her less likely to look elsewhere for a young stud to take care of her needs.
Foxy and I have talked about how much fun we’ve had in the Lifestyle. We’ve met so many interesting people, and I often get fodder for my erotic stories from situations we find ourselves in.
I’m Larry Archer, and I write erotic stories for the huddled and yearning masses. Foxy and I are swingers in real life, and I write about the things we do and see. While the Lifestyle is not for everyone, it’s been fun for us. My smut is explicit and hardcore but with a somewhat plot. My porn stories are generally positive and fun as this reflects how enjoyable swinging has been to us. If you’re interested in checking out my stories, I publish at all the typical outlets.
I think you’ve accomplished a lot this year. Getting all your books in print was a massive effort. (One that I’m putting off…)
Hope you get to go to more parties in 2023!
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I am proud of adding paperbacks to my smut catalog. The last book I published was quick and painless to convert it to print. There just don’t seem to be enough hours in the day to get all my stuff done. I’ve been putting one of my paperbacks by the bed and reading a few pages every night. I’m starting to impress myself. LOL
The party scene is pretty bare, or maybe all of our friends are scaredy cats. In the old days, we used to meet new couples all the time. Now I’m starting to get the 7-year itch even with our friends! It’s hell when you are bored sleeping with someone else’s wife.
As far as stuff in your stories happening in real life is concerned, I would think the fact that 100% of the straights that are introduced in your stories immediately fully embrace the lifestyle would seem to be a bit of a stretch.
Of course if they didn’t, they wouldn’t be in the story, so that’s a catch-22.
Now just for shits and giggles, it could be interesting to have Foxy put the moves on someone and get turned down. Lot’s of potential for some humorous ribbing on her or by her about the straight that walked away.
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Yeah, but do you want to have to read half the book before someone gets laid?
Seriously, in real life, things don’t happen that quickly, but you’d be surprised at how quickly people can get sucked in. There are always people who are predisposed to the Lifestyle. People give off signals, and you’d be surprised at the number of people we’ve picked up. Plus, it doesn’t hurt that my wife is drop-dead gorgeous and has never met a stranger.
When you consider half of the marriages end in divorce, and most of them are unhappy in marriage. A fair percentage are probably prospective couples.
We’ve picked up maybe ten couples in non-swinger places like bars, strip clubs, hotels, and nudist clubs. Nudist clubs are actually a great place to meet couples, except that Foxy hates bugs and her idea of roughing it is a Holiday Inn.
We got into swinging when Foxy brought home a couple she met at a bar. She has a pretty good track record. It’s funny, but when you are on it outside, you wonder how to find people. Once inside, there are prospects everywhere.
“It’s funny, but when you are on it outside, you wonder how to find people. Once inside, there are prospects everywhere.”
Sounds like having a girlfriend/wife. As you and I have both observed, if you have one, finding other women interested in you is easy, if you’re single, not so much.
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It always seemed like it was feast or famine. LOL