My current erotica novel, House Party, is about a swinger’s party and I’m writing a scene that got me to thinking about the concept of “her girlfriends” and “our girlfriends.”

In swinging, you are always meeting new couples and a surprising number of unicorns. If my wife didn’t like dick so much, she’d likely be a lesbian. Sometimes I wonder if she just pictures all the guys as girls with a strap-on.

Swingers tend to hang out at bars which are popular with people in the Lifestyle. These are generally not what is called off-premise swing clubs but just Lifestyle friendly clubs, where the owners look the other way or are often partiers themselves.

At a bar, it’s common for the ladies to initiate the action as there is often some question as to the status of the new couple. Are they swingers, or just a straight couple who wandered in off the street, innocently looking for a drink?

My wife loves to pick up strays, bi-friendly wives, and bi-girlfriends, which is typical in the bars we frequent. It was the same back in the mid-west where we used to live, and she will meet some new love interest on a regular basis.

That’s when we have to make a decision, is she “her” girlfriend or “our” girlfriend? Often it’s pretty easy if my wife has no interest in the husband at all. I can usually pick up on that right away and will stay at arm’s length.

With “her” girlfriends, especially if she has no interest in the guy, I usually never hit on the girl as that will often make him hit on my wife. Also if it’s a girl she’s seriously into, I don’t like to make her share. Sometimes, I get sloppy seconds and usually get to watch.

I love to watch my wife with another woman as that is so sexy. Wifey is an exhibitionist and loves to put on a show especially for a crowd. Often the other guy and I will just watch and jerk off as the girl’s entertain themselves and us!

With “our” girlfriends, its girls that we share and this is usually the case with the unicorns that we know and wives of couples. Unicorns are kind of community property if you want to be tacky but they enjoy it, and so do we.

“Unicorns,” if you haven’t heard the term are single girls who party with couples. They are called unicorns since they are a fantasy animal which doesn’t exist and so straight guys always look for them but never find them.

Surprising, but once you are in the Lifestyle, you find them all over the place. In general, our unicorns are in two categories, young or mature (MILF). The young ones are typically around twenty to twenty-five and the older ones’ north of forty.

The younger ones have realized early that they really enjoy sex but don’t want to be known as a slut or get into a situation where they can be attacked or forced into something they are not comfortable with. To the young unicorn, going with a swinger couple(s) means that they get all the sex they want without the negative stereotype.

Plus, exhibitionism is a spectator sport at parties, and the girls get to show off as much as they want without having to fight off the guys unless they don’t want to. Most people don’t drink at a party, and there is little chance of a girl getting gangbanged without her approval.

The older unicorns are often single or divorced when they discover the swinger lifestyle. Mature women are typically more honest with themselves and realize that sex is fun and being at a party makes it that much easier to do. A MILF’s body is not quite as good as a twenty-year-old but the sex usually more than makes up for it.

Swinging is not for everyone and will not help a failing marriage or relationship, but if you are interested in injecting a little spice into your life, it’s a fun thing.

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