Just a quick reminder for those men out there who are chronologically challenged. Valentine’s Day is right around the corner.
Las Vegas has perfected the Staycation or vacation where you don’t leave town. Just book a room at a local hotel and spend the night away from it all.
Get Mom to babysit the kids and plan on sleeping naked! If you’re adventurous, go to the bar and see if you can pick up another couple. If you’re not ready to go all the way, maybe a makeout session will get you fired up for the night, then finish with your partner.
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Most metropolitan areas have swing clubs that you can find with a quick Internet search. If you’ve never tried it, you’d be surprised how much fun it can be, and you are generally not required to participate but go with an open mind.
Read up on all the rules, so you are not surprised at the door. Some clubs require you to be nude while most will allow you to keep your clothes on. Always dress to impress and as minimally as possible. Guys, business casual, is typically good and a sports coat helps.
Always assume that your spouse is going to get hit on and so don’t be surprised when it happens. Try not to cling to each other and give your suitors some room to work. Remember, this is all in fun.
If you’ve never seen your husband/wife playing grab ass with someone, try to work through your jealousy without throwing a fit. The best thing is to find someone for yourself and keep your mind off him/her.
Decide beforehand on what the limits are and try to stick to them. With experience, you’ll find that the rules quickly disappear as you both become more comfortable with the situation.
If one of you breaks the rules and goes beyond what you agreed to, try not to throw a fit and discuss it afterward. Above all, you don’t want to be known as the couple from hell.
If you search through my archives, you’ll find additional articles on swinging that may be of interest to you.