Lisabet, Mark, and I were discussing Hotwifery, and I thought this was a good topic for a post as I’ve been dark too much lately.
The original (1950’s) definition of a Hotwife is typically an older MILF who makes her cuckold husband watch as she entertains. Usually, in older smut stories, the cuckold is often tied up or somehow kept from being able to avenge his wife’s honor and has to be satisfied watching.
I’ve come to the realization that being a swinger has skewed how I look at life in general. Those in the Lifestyle, from our experience, typically treat sexual relationships as more an activity you enjoy, like bowling, and not stepping out on your mate. Having sex with others is not cheating if your partner knows about it, is the common saying.
Today’s Hotwife & cuckold stories are usually not like the 50’s versions but still tend to show hubby looking in the window as his spouse is gangbanged or some such. We’ve traveled a lot in our marriage (pre-COVID) and visited many swing clubs across the country. From what I can see, Hotwives are the same everywhere, and their husbands all like to watch. I’ve yet to find a cuck who doesn’t love to watch his wife in action. Plus, he doesn’t have to do any of the work and is free to abuse himself.
I’ve always been a Bull, who is the third wheel in a cuckold – Hotwife relationship, but I still enjoy watching my wife get her brains fucked out. In our close circle, we run with two Hotwife couples, and they make no bones about it. Kinks in the Lifestyle are common, and no one thinks anything about someone who likes to wear their wife’s thong as a mask or some such nonsense.
As I write erotic stories, I often include people I know in my stories. In fact, it’s a challenge to remember everyone’s actual name as I’ve created pseudo names for my friends in my stories. Pam and Jack are my favorite Hotwife couple and are in many of my smut stories. Pam is the perfect example of a Hotwife. She’s older but gorgeous with a thirty-year-old body, shoulder-length blonde hair, and nice jugs. Jack is the typical pervert and loves to film his wife getting nailed to the bed.
Jack has never made a move on Foxy, and I’ve never seen him with anyone beyond having his dick in his hand. The only problem is that he tends to shake the camera while videoing, so you have to put up with the picture moving up and down! The funniest thing I always remember is during one of our New Year’s Eve Pajama parties when Foxy was checking the supply of towels in the bathrooms. She had snuck into the master bedroom, and the lights were dim as Pam was in bed with someone.
The vanity area of the bathroom doesn’t have a door but a walkway. Just beside the bathroom area is the door to the walk-in closet. We have a big supply of what we call “fuck towels” that are inexpensive white towels you can pitch if they get messed up. As Foxy was restocking the stack of towels on the counter, a hand reached out of the closet and touched her. I was downstairs and heard her scream as if she’d just met Freddy Kruger with a butcher knife.
Running upstairs, I found everyone laughing as Jack had wanted to make sure Foxy saw his wife getting taken care of and never realized that being grabbed in a dark room would surprise her. Jack is the perfect example of a pervert, and being able to watch his wife from a hidden spot makes it all that much better. He will go outside and look in the window as long as he can see, but for him, “spying” on his wife makes it that much better than standing beside the bed. He loves fantasizing about her as the cheating slut of a wife she is. We all have kinks that you might not admit to a straight friend, but to us, it is commonplace.
Our other Hotwife couple is Jim and Sherry (their story names). Doctor Jim is a plastic surgeon, and Sherry is his rebuilt Hotwife. Jim does boobs for a living, and Sherry is his example of the perfect MILF. I’ve learned more about body enhancement from Dr. Jim than I ever expected to know. His specialty is fixing bad boob jobs, and gives seminars across the country on repair techniques. Sherry’s tits are perfect with a sky slope top, and you can hardly feel the implant at all. When he finishes with a girl’s jugs, they look completely natural, and you’d assume she was naturally endowed. Most of the time, when they come over, we get to play with Sherry’s boobs as he shows us what is the latest thing he’s done. I think she’s had something like five or six upgrades.
Dr. Jim keeps on me to pump up Foxy, but her jugs are a perfect size, and I can’t see messing with perfection. While Foxy doesn’t have the biggest tits in the room, they stick straight out with puffy nipples. I think she’d be a large C or possibly a small D-cup, assuming she ever wore a bra. As a camera nut, Foxy and I met at a photographer’s Christmas party. She was a runway model or “clothes horse,” as it’s known in the trade. At almost six feet, she weighed 115 pounds when we met and had skinny legs from my perspective. You have to be thin, modeling clothes, and was like a size 4 or 5 if I remember correctly. It took me about two years to fatten her up, and she’s now at her fighting weight of around 130 pounds and a size 7.
Foxy tends to be more on the lezzy side and often will not get with a guy at a party if there is a cute girl around. It’s not uncommon to have her join us halfway through. I initially I thought she might be checking up on me, but I’ve come to realize that she just wants to make sure I’m having fun. Plus, we both like the same type of girls, and usually, if I’m attracted to someone, then she’ll be also.
In swinging, you rarely meet a couple that both of you are interested in partying with. Sometimes this can be awkward if the husband doesn’t appeal to Wifey. We’ve ended up with “her” girlfriends and “our” girlfriends. Our girlfriends are community property, but if it’s “her” girlfriend, then I don’t get any because she doesn’t want to be a “charity fuck.” She has a couple of girlfriends that she enjoys getting with but doesn’t care for the husband for one reason or another, and if it’s just the four of us, I usually only watch.
Foxy has never told me that I couldn’t have one of her girlfriends, but if I know that the husband is not on her shortlist, then I just watch. Guys always love to watch two girls together, and I’m willing to sacrifice and not make my wife put out. A charity fuck is what we call having sex with someone that doesn’t appeal to you. Swinging always means that you have the opportunity to say no, but sometimes when you are the last two in a room with your clothes on, it becomes a little awkward.
As much as I hate to admit it, there are women I don’t enjoy screwing. One couple has a wife who is a dud, and she gets mad at me for not fucking her. She always bitches at my wife about me ignoring her. At a party, it’s pretty easy to disappear, but when it’s just a few couples, it becomes more difficult. She’s nice and pretty but just lays there when you’re screwing her. I guess I’ve gotten used to my wife screaming in your ear and telling you dirty stories while she claws your back. Sometimes, I wish that someone would stuff a dick in her mouth to shut her up! It’s a lot more fun when your partner is animated and returns the favor. People tell me that I can go to hell for culling, but it’s not worth the effort at times.
Until we got into swinging, I never realized that I was bigger than most guys. The Lifestyle has been an education, and now I understand what women go through with guys hitting on them. My wife says, “Poor Baby,” when I try to explain how I don’t know how to turn someone down when they want to hook up. Getting a reputation as a Bull has made me understand why before swinging, I usually had a string of married women who needed servicing and would stop by for a quickie. I just assumed everyone had this problem.
I remember once that a guy I worked with quit and moved out of state. That night his girlfriend showed up at my apartment to get taken care of. It’s a dirty job, but someone has to do it.
In swinging, girls will ask you to party, which is the euphemism for let’s fuck. For straight guys, the action at a party is likely the thing dreams are made of, and while it’s probably not pure fantasy, it can be fairly interesting. I remember once being in a group situation where some woman climbed on and rode me hard in reverse cowgirl for a few minutes, then disappeared in the pile. I’ve often wondered who she was as I have no idea.
Writing erotic stories has given me the outlet to talk about things we’ve done and seen. I’ve been writing HEA smut stories for a little over ten years now and have published over thirty stories about our adventures and stories based upon our experiences. Foxy and I often talk about how much fun swinging has been for both of us. My wife is a closet exhibitionist and loves being able to wear clothes that are borderline against the law. She also enjoys the fairer sex and appreciates the fact that most women in swinging are bisexual.
My erotic stories are typically humorous and never degrading, as that’s been our takeaway from swinging. You wonder how to find others with the same bent as you have, but once you break into the circle, it’s common to discover that perverts are everywhere.
What the Lifestyle teaches you is that your wife flirting and showing off her body doesn’t mean that you need to be jealous but enjoy the show like everyone else. The relationships that are formed are much more personal than any you’d have with your straight friends.
I’m Larry Archer, and I write erotic stories for the huddled and yearning masses in both print or electronic format. Foxy and I are swingers in real life, and I write about the things we do and see. While the Lifestyle is not for everyone, it’s been fun for us. My smut is explicit and hardcore but with a somewhat plot. My porn stories are generally positive and fun as this reflects how enjoyable swinging has been to us. If you’re interested in checking out my stories, I publish at all the typical outlets.
“The only problem is that he tends to shake the camera while videoing, so you have to put up with the picture moving up and down! ”
Well, if he syncs it right, it would essentially freeze Pam or her lover in place.
Or he could use some sort of Steadicam system.
I poked around Amazon, and there are quite a few options under $100. Not sure how good any of them are, compared to the expensive ones.
I would think that you might find such a system useful with your photography, so maybe you guys could go in on one and share it.
All for the art of course.
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That’s certainly an option, and a tripod would help also. I’m mostly into still photography and use a Canon R5 system for my model photography. I have to tread a line to keep my straight life separate from the party side and, as such, can’t share my personal photos or movies beyond carefully cropped shots. WordPress doesn’t let you show much, but there are some halfway decent shots on my MeWe account. When you shoot stuff at a party, it is rarely composed correctly or with the right exposure.
I have a decent Canon video camera for movies, and I’ll look into a Steadicam holder. It’s not usually a big deal as most of the people who grab the camera can refrain from whacking off, except Jack is unredeemable. As you can imagine, movies or pictures from a party are always close held and rarely passed around. It’s common to have video running of a previous party on a TV at a house party. We don’t mind people watching but need to be sure that exposing someone is not a good idea. We’ve never had any problems with that; knock on wood.
“Plus, we both like the same type of girls, and usually, if I’m attracted to someone, then she’ll be also.”
Same with my DH and me. This may be the recipe for the perfect marriage!
Great post, Larry. I really love your laid-back attitude (which is one reason I enjoy your books).
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Thanks, Lisabet. Swinging has been a big part of keeping us happy. We often talk about how much fun this journey has been. I know that the Lifestyle has given us the opportunity to experience things that we will always treasure.
I’ve given some thought to your and Lisabet’s comments about not liking humiliation in a Hotwife/cuckold story.
First, to each his/her own, so if that’s not your cup of tea, that’s fine. Taste is a personal perspective.
However, I note that Lisabet has multiple BDSM themed stories in her library, and Larry has mentioned that the real Foxy occasionally likes to be a dominatrix, and her character in his stories, has done that as well.
So the question I have for the two of you, what makes the physical “pain” of BDSM/dominatrix activities OK but the emotional “pain” of cuckold humiliation not OK?
After all Larry, you pointed out that Hotwife must always be capitalized, because the Hotwife is dominant relative to the cuckold.
It seems to me that a natural aspect of such dominance includes some degree of humiliation. Whether that be a references to comparisons of endowment, proficiency as a lover, or something else, I don’t see how the Hotwife can maintain that dominance without making some argument for why she needs another lover. Thus putting the cuckold in the subservient position requires some degree of humiliation, IMHO.
Of course, it all depends on how much humiliation one is talking about, just like how much “pain” one is talking about with BDSM/dominatrix themes.
I think in both cases, the recipient of the “pain” enjoys it, as long as it doesn’t get too extreme.
Although I’m sure there are people for whom the definition of “extreme” is far far higher than what most people would consider. Again, to each his/her own.
Just my 2 cents, would be interested in your thoughts.
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There is nothing wrong with physical or psychological pain as long as it is consensual. What I like or don’t like doesn’t mean that the act is right or wrong. The nice thing about a kink is that you enjoy it. Certainly, if the cuck enjoys being humiliated then go for it.
Likewise, for the capitalization of Hotwife, it is the “rule,” just like “Bull” should be capitalized and cuckold lowercase. As writers, we are expected to write “correctly” and that doesn’t mean that it is right or wrong.
Like when you are thinking about something and not saying it out loud, you use italics without quotes.
I don’t know about Lisabet and humiliation as she writes a lot of BDSM and that typically involves humiliation in some fashion. Personally, beyond the way girls look in BDSM outfits, it doesn’t do anything, especially for me. Having said that, there are times my wife will do some shit that turns me on.
But don’t think too deeply about erotic literature as it’s not Shakespeare. I don’t know about other authors, but I write what turns me on, and that doesn’t mean right or wrong. We have a girlfriend who likes to pee on your hand. Personally, I find it a little weird, but would I stop her? No, unless it was my hand! It’s one of nice things about the Lifestyle, is the fact you can express your kink without people looking down on you.
Just in general, people write what sells, and if they write a story that brings in big bucks, they will do another like it even if they don’t agree with the actions.