As an author of erotic books and stories, one of my side gigs is writing a monthly article for Erotic Readers and Writers Association (ERWA), one of the more popular sites for writers (and readers) of erotica.

If you are an aspiring author of porn, I recommend that you join and become a member. The site enables you to converse with other smut writers and discuss the finer points of erotica and erotic romance.

In my latest ERWA blog post, I talk about what we enjoy about swinging. You can read that post and check out a picture of Wifey with one of her girlfriends, by clicking this link. This post got one of my fellow ERWA writers to ask me how we got into the Lifestyle, which is the topic for this post.

The truth is that my wife got us into the Lifestyle after getting tired of me talking about it. We met when she was twenty and pretty naive and inexperienced about sex. I was a few years older than her in age, but a lifetime in experience. We met at a photographer’s Christmas party, where I tried to pick up her girlfriend. But that is a story in itself.

Needless to say, I tried to pick up her girlfriend as she was obviously the “easy” one, but I quickly discovered that in addition to being one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever known, she is smart. Unlike the old saying, “Brains Plus Beauty Equals a Constant,” she was a ten on both scales. If you can’t figure out the old saying, ask me?

We’d been dating for a couple of years when I ran across a story in our local weekly alternative newspaper about a new club opening. The club’s owners were swingers, and they were quoted as saying that the club would be a hangout for “those kind of people.”

I asked Foxy if she would be interested in checking out the club? To my surprise, she said yes, but I should have expected that response. As a runway model, Foxy is almost six-feet tall, and ninety percent of that is leg. She has a lanky build with medium boobs, puffy nipples, which stick straight out. Most people assume she’s had a boob job because of how firm her tits are but has never had any work done.

One of her most striking features is her curly brunette hair and dark brown eyes, which go so well with her full plump lips. If you’ve ever seen a big-haired 80’s porn star, my wife looks like she just stepped off the set of a porn movie, where the guys still have their socks on.

Early in our relationship, I convinced her to stop straightening her hair and just let it go natural. As an East Texas native, we all love big hair, and I’m no exception. What she discovered was that she only had to jump out of the shower and run her fingers through her hair, and she was done. So it was a win on both sides, easy to take care of and incredibly sexy to look at.

After asking her if she would go to a swinger’s hangout with me, I could see the wheels turning in her head. Models tend to be exhibitionists as they are always on stage with people looking at them, and Foxy was no exception. She loved to dress sexy, which always translated into short skirts and boobs hanging out.

In addition to giving up straightening her hair, I convinced her to stop wearing a bra. She was always bitching about how uncomfortable they were, and that wasn’t much of a battle to give them up.

I love watching a girl walk when you can see the subtle movement of their nipples behind their blouse. Wifey perfected that walk. As a model, she tends to strut as models are trained to do. She could go from just a tiny movement of her nips to full swinging of her breasts.

Of course, her preferred dress often made other women give her catty comments about always showing off the girls at a party. I think that it struck her, she could let her exhibitionist side run wild at parties where they swapped wives.

For whatever reason, I never took her to the swinger’s club, and she would remind me of it from time to time. I guess it was fear of the unknown and now would have jumped in with both feet.

Then one Friday night, she had stopped off at a bar with a group of people she worked with. Foxy called me and said that she had met a couple at the bar who were swingers and was bringing them home.

At the time, this was a WTF? moment as now I was in a put up or shut up position.

A few minutes later, she shows up with a couple from Chicago, who were in their early thirties, good looking, and both hot. We proceeded to have a mind-blowing night of sex, and I got to see my wife with another man and his wife, while I was having sex with his wife. Well, when she wasn’t having sex with my wife!

Luckily, this couple was smart about seducing us. His wife went after my wife initially and like a lot of guys, watching your wife with another woman is incredibly sexy and erotic. After watching them together, it was easy to start banging his wife while she went down on my wife.

Then watching Wifey go from sucking his cock to having her feet on his shoulders was a pretty easy step. What you have to appreciate is this is sex and nothing else. At the end of the day, you are both the same people and no harm, no foul.

The next morning, I was making coffee and looked out the kitchen window to see the couple’s wife, buck naked, going down the pool slide. Our pool had a privacy fence, but it didn’t protect our neighbors from seeing strange nude women on top of our pool slide! 😊

What we realized was that it was common for people to act in a completely uninhibited way around other people. My wife, like many other wives, are exhibitionists and love to show off but don’t like the snide remarks from straights. Being with other swingers means that you can be yourself without fear of condemnation.

That night we met up with friends of theirs and got introduced into the crowd we ran with until we moved to Las Vegas. I was surprised to discover there was a huge number of perverts around us.

We got invited to our first house party for the next weekend, and that was the real start into the Lifestyle. Every time we met a new couple, it seemed to expand into a different crowd.

For the uninitiated, a “House Party,” is an acronym for a swinger’s party and as most straights are oblivious to what’s going on around them, we can talk about things that go completely over their head.

While swinging is obviously not for everyone, we’ve enjoyed being in the Lifestyle and have met people from all over the country who share our like of swapping partners. If you have any specific questions, let us know. – Larry & Foxy